If you have been on Facebook, walked down the street or been anywhere today, you've probably been bombarded with images of what "beauty" is. I don't know about you, but I'm so sick of seeing the effects of these messages on people. No one thinks they are good enough because of all the sales pitches that surround us. The most common reason I hear for not being photographed is that "I'll come back when I've lost weight." Why? Will you be more valuable or worthy when you've lost weight? Will your friends and family love you more? Or, do you think you'll be more beautiful then?
Many years ago I learned this lesson. I watched someone who did not fit the traditional "beauty" standards walk into a room and have every man stop and stare at her. It was incredible! As I got to know her, I realised what it was about her that got everyone's attention. Confidence. She was so sure of who she was, and she owned it. That, is more attractive than anything else. I also shuddered to think of how many opportunities and moments I had let slip because I was telling myself this lame story that I wasn't good enough because I wasn't......... take your pick.
This is where the "beauty" message is wrong. Beauty is not your body. It's also not something you put on your body, or on your face. Beauty is intangible. It's the light that shines out of people's eyes. It's the way you make people feel, the way you love them. Is there anything more beautiful than parents holding their new baby, or a couple on their wedding day? It's the moments where we are truly ourselves, truly confident, truly authentic. That's what beauty is, and that's what I capture in my camera, not the shell that it comes in. X